I’m writing a book about my cross-country bike tour. There’s a whole lotta “me too” moments in it. I’ve been resisting posting “me too” on my Facebook page, thinking that my experiences haven’t been quite terrible enough to warrant the outpouring of sympathy that I will surely receive (because my people are wonderful). But this morning I was cat-called, twice, while riding my bicycle to the Farmer’s Market, and caught myself wondering if it’s because I wore my favorite cheetah-print shorts. So, screw it: “me too”.
By the way, it’s not because I wore my favorite shorts. And it’s not even because I was kinda arching my back and sticking my butt out (which, for the record, is proper cycling form and why more people should ride bikes. It’s hella sexy). It’s because there’s homies out there who harass people.
We’re all in this together, ladies and gentlemen. Every one of us has been harassed (yes, your buddy grabbing your nuts at a drunken party totally counts, guys). And yet I get uncomfy admitting that to strangers. Telling my close girlfriends? No problem. Telling the wide world on facebook? Well, I figure people will think, “okay... so now what do i do with that? Hit the ‘like’ button?”
Yeah, hit the like button. Do whatever. It’s not so much what you do with it, but what it’s telling you: you’re not alone. Because I can guarantee no matter who you are, you’ve spent precious moments of your life living under the dark, threatening cloud of sexual harassment and assault.
Think about it: Have you ever been nervous in a dark alley at nighttime? Were you worried for your girlfriend when she went camping that one time with her bestie? Did you stay up a little later than usual, waiting for your child to get home from a birthday party? C’mon, people, admit it! “You too”!
Even if nothing bad ever, ever happened to you or the people you love (kinda unlikely, I’d say), the mere existence of harassment affects your life. If you’ve ever fretted over the safety of yourself or loved ones, I give you permission to cross this invisible line that the “me too” movement has drawn, and come on over to the growing camp of people who want to point out just one thing: It’s everywhere. And no one is alone in this.
Also, check out my other blog posts for excerpts of my upcoming book! ;) And thanks for supporting your fellow human beings and their quest for love, in all its forms.